3-Uncommon Ways to Face Your [Emotional] Fears
What are you afraid of? Maybe spiders, snakes, or heights? Maybe clowns or tight spaces? For me, I have a genuine fear of being overrun by beetles like in the movie The Mummy (don’t judge me). While physical fears may be, well, scary, I’ve found that they often have nothing on the emotional fears you carry inside your mind.
Am I enough?
You know…those fears….the ones that make your heart feel like it’s being squeezed through a juice press every time you make a mistake, have to try something new, or have to face the opinions of others. The ones that make you question whether or not to answer certain phone calls from family for fear of saying the wrong thing or disappointing someone.
We see quotes all the time like, “Do something everyday that scares you” or “never let your fear decide your fate” and my personal LEAST favorite “Be fearless”, but let’s get real…the only thing those do it remind you of how afraid you really are! In fact, it’s one thing to bungee jump off of a bridge and another to go against the grain of family expectations or societal norms and face upsetting them or ostracizing yourself.
(Why are moms and dads SO MUCH SCARIER than a 200 ft bridge?!)
All that to say, it’s really hard to look your perfectionism, “am I enough?”, or “what if I fail?” demons in the face and choose to brave the storm.
But that’s exactly what you need to do.
I’d argue that the phrase “do something everyday that scares you” mentality is toxic to your personal growth because you’re giving power to your fear. It’s also way easier to associate fear with the physical world, so you’re more likely to accidentally overlook the fears that really need to be dealt with.
Like the hard conversation you need to have with your boss. Or speaking up against someone who is putting you down. (You catch my drift.) Instead of doing something everyday that scares you, I have a challenge.
Do something everyday that makes you brave.
Before you have a mild panic attack that I’m asking you to dredge up those deep, dark grievances you’ve kept at bay since childhood or walk outside with no makeup and a crop top, take a deep breath. Being brave means slowly brick by brick building up confidence around those emotional fears so that when the day comes where you’re challenged to put yourself out there, make a hard decision, or (just maybe) have that difficult conversation, you’re prepared to take that big brave leap.
And if you're looking for some outside-of-the-box practices to really hone home your bravery muscles and deal with your emotional fears, here are three of my personal favorites:
The One-Take Rule
How else can you face your fear in a unique way? Let me know in the comments and, as always, if you need a reminder to be brave, check out our shop!
To Being Brave,